Disclaimers: As I believe, two of my closest friends are going to think that the recent incidents related to them have inspired me to write this post, I would like to tell them that I had already given this post a thought well in advance even before you said for the first time “Jiya” or “Princess”. Sorry Allan and Maverick, this was the only way I could give your reference. No offence to you either Golu, Banno, MJ or Eddy.
So, what is this post all about? Let me tell you, this is the first time I’m going out of my comfort zone when writing is concerned. Till now, most of my posts had plots around me. This is different. Also, I am presenting two different ideas at the same time. Obviously, most of you know which stand I generally take. So, I hope you would like to see the other half of my psychology map. As of now, all I can do is hope you enjoy my post. So let the curtain raise.
Sarah and Shaun met for the first time at Sip-n-Bite cafĂ©. Sarah, came to that place with her school time friend and Shaun with his department friends for a lunch as mess food provided him no inspiration to walk a couple of miles. For obvious reasons, Shaun and his friends decided to occupy the table right next to Sarah’s.
Around a year later.
Sarah: Well, I still can’t figure out why you behaving so awkwardly.
Shaun: I’m not. Did I do anything which I don’t do normally?
Sarah: Not exactly. But for last few days, you haven’t really acted the way I have always seen you.
Shaun (smirkingly): That’s because I think I’m in love.
Sarah: Oh! I see. So, you think you are in love.
Shaun: Of course I am.
Sarah: You didn’t take a long time to go from “I think” to “of course”.
Shaun: Come on!
Sarah: Whatever. May I know who the (sarcastically) lucky girl is?
Shaun: That I leave to you to figure out.
Sarah: Seriously, you are my best friend. But still, I can’t really think of a single name.
Shaun: Exactly, as I expected.
Sarah: May I have the pleasure to know the reason for the same?
Shaun: Because, I think you are in utter need to rejuvenate the romantic part of yours, you need to be in a relationship.
Sarah: I wasn’t expecting that from you. You know me so well.
Shaun: Hey! What’s wrong with you? I mean, being with someone you care for, someone you think of all the day, someone whom you find right besides you all the time, someone you share everything with, someone you love is such a nice feeling.
Sarah: I don’t really know why this relationship thingy matters so much in one’s life. Can’t the person for whom you care, with whom you share anything, whom you always find beside yourselves when you need someone be just your friend?
Shaun: What about, “someone you love”?
Sarah: Explain me what love is.
Shaun: I can’t. It’s something you can’t explain. It’s something you just feel.
Sarah: OK. Tell me whatever you feel.
Shaun: I feel nice just to see her around. I can’t really think of anything else when I’m with her. I see myself looking into her eyes, and just looking into her eyes. I know she’s going to be with the one I’m gonna spend rest of my life with.
Sarah: Are you sure?
Shaun: Sure of what?
Sarah: Sure that you are going to spend the rest of your life with her.
Shaun: Hmmmm. Yea! Why not?
Sarah: Don’t ask me “why not”. Ask yourself “Why”.
(Pause)
Sarah: Do you realize that all that you see around yourself is part of the imaginary world that you have created for yourself.
Shaun: I’m imagining nothing.
Sarah: Indeed. You are dreaming.
Shaun: Why do you think so?
Sarah: Don’t just think about the “feel good” factor. There are obviously other things you should ponder upon.
Shaun: For me, happiness and being content is all that matters. Her smile, that’s all I want.
Sarah: That’s what I was talking about. Be rational.
Shaun: Be real.
Sarah: PJ!!!!
Shaun: Seriously. Everyone needs someone, you can’t disagree with that.
Sarah: I agree. But at our age, the relationships are not that serious that you can expect them to continue for long. Obviously, if you care for someone, then you definitely develop feelings for that person. Intense friendships should never be mistaken to be commitment.
Shaun: Why do you think it’s not gonna last long?
Sarah: Your attitude, “Everyone needs someone”, has forced you to think that it’s time you get into a commitment. There is a difference between being committed and being into a relationship.
Shaun: I don’t get your point. All I know is, she understands everything what I mean. So do I. I know, I’m not going to find a better girl throughout my life.
Sarah: Was she your friend, before you developed feelings for her?
Shaun: She was and she is, a really good one indeed.
Sarah: Do I know her?
Shaun: May be, or maybe not. I’m not gonna tell ya. What’ll be fun then? You will have to figure it out yourself.
Sarah: Alright. The point is that she was once your friend. I don’t really get what actually is the difference between a very good friend of opposite gender and a person you are into a relationship with. You can obviously share everything with both of them. You can do anything to see them smiling. You tease both of them for being fat. Before deciding the toppings of Domino’s pizza, you consider her/his choice. You would not go for vanilla shake if she/he likes chocolate more. The only difference may be that you don’t get physical. But as apparent, at least in our college, most of the pairings are due to emotional attachments, not the other way round.
Shaun: I agree, I don’t lust for her. I love her. Obviously, I can share anything with both, a friend as well as her, I wanna see both smiling, pizza thingy too, tease them both as well, but still the feeling I get in doing all these is way too different in both the cases.
Sarah: Let us welcome the “Feelings” thingy once again.
Shaun: Oh! You don’t get my point. I see myself with her in future. That’s not the case when a friend is concerned. You wouldn’t feel it unless you get out of your “Say NO to relationships” outfit that you are always wearing.
Sarah: If you are into a relationship just because it’s a source of fun or you wish to experience something which you haven’t yet, then you are among the worst breeds of homo sapiens to exist.
Shaun: You wouldn’t understand.
Sarah: I doubt it.
Shaun: But I’m sure you won’t.
Sarah: Why’s that.
Shaun: It’s because, you can’t feel, you can’t notice signs.
Sarah: Oh really! Which signs did I not interpret?
Shaun: That I….
Alright guys. It was not my genre. I just tried something different. Now some of you might question, my choice of names. Shaun, to be precise, as you all know, is my anagram. But you know it better that my way of thinking is more like Sarah’s. I chose to turn things a little bit around as I didn’t want to it to relate to me in any way. Moreover, I wanted to see emotional aspect of a guy, instead of the gal. Was I a success? That’s for you to decide.
Till then,
Keep reading, keep commenting.
K@ushik
Till then,
Keep reading, keep commenting.
K@ushik
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ReplyDeleteyaar......bas....mast tha yaar..
ReplyDelete...sab sahi hai...
i feel u wud know my feelings better for ur blog than i myself do... :)
May be you're right.
ReplyDeleteMera emosanal dost Allan. ;)
awesome.....awesome.....awesome.....awesome.....
ReplyDeleteu rite really wonderfully....... i hv been appretiatin u 4 a while now..... gud 2 c ya tryin sumthin apart 4m narration...
4 post, i hv 2 say..... u rite very rite sarah's part..... but shaun's.... u missed dat x factor..... may b u shud apply 2 urself..... watever shaun said to sarah...... u need to b in one...... may b den.... u understand things betta......
tho once again ending wz abrupt.... i liked it dis time......
the section"new facts known" is awesome...... hillarious....
P.S.
i want u put up ur reactions 2 d discussion too...... in ur next post.......
@ Esha
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot.
I appreciate your appreciating me.
I have written it also, that my thinking I have depicted in Sarah's part. That's why I have been more rational while writing Sarah's part. As for Shaun's I would say I've tried. And if you are into a relationship just because you wish to experience something which you haven’t yet, then you are among the worst breeds of homo sapiens to exist, as I have already stated.
But yeah!! these two are simply two different views. I can't really take any stand. And that's exactly my idea of the post had been.
P.S.
Sure I will.
1. I have tried already..... apples pine nuts and bacon that is..... forget about the other stuff :P
ReplyDelete2. Main mal/counting vagairah ki baatein online nahin karta....
3. @ ur last blog: unreliable source and funde wale log........ dude!!! how can that be me??
and btw..... u r not bein completely truthful when u say u r like sarah ;) ;)
ReplyDeletecoz ive seen more to u than either sarah or shaun :D
alright... lemme start with the title
ReplyDeleteKaushik hates love stories.. does he?
Hmmm,he doesnt really hate them,he dislikes the way some people want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being committed to someone.. perhaps, he is confused about the whole idea of relationships... no, he doesnt really hate love stories.. he is simply not able to relate to extreme emotions n all..I maybe wrong, but thats what my observations say :-)
hmmm
coming on to the blog,honestly.. something that i didnt like was that I couldnt feel they were real best friends or really close.. i know u wanted to express that, but something was missing...
anyways.. i know, ur views match that of sarah to a great extent..but u don agree to her cent per cent too...
love or friendship? people not realizing they are in love... might seem to be easy but its a tough topic to write bout..
well...
it depends from situation to situation n person to person..
Sometimes, you feel way happier being friends with someone.. friendship is the most beautiful relationship u can think of u know.. i had tried to write bout it once, true friendship between a girl n a guy.. hope u like it..
http://soniabhatia.blogspot.com/2010/06/hum-tum.html
some things bout ur blog :
1.avoid repeating the same ps messages if possible
2.try n write stuff in general, without mentioning things/ppl that inspire u to write it..try fiction :D
3. wud love to read the post on the conversation :D
one more sincere advice..
ReplyDeletechange the title of ur blog
tarunkaushik.blogspot.com is ur url..
keep an interesting title :-)
@ Srijan.
ReplyDeleteOh!!! You should discuss it online. At least people like me will get inspiration from the same. And mind you, we seriously need it.
Alright you are not unreliable(it was to induce a bit of humor) but fande wala to hai. You can't disagree to that. Though fande kisi kaam ke nahi hote.
The main aim of calling my thinking to be like Sarah's was : Studapa dikhta hai bhai
@ Sonia,
ReplyDeleteWell title of my post should have been " I hat luv storys, or do i not?" My idea way to leave people guessing. Well, I couldn't succeed cause I still am ametuer you know when it comes to writing.
And yeah, your observation, to some extent, points in the right direction.
I too somehow feel that I couldn't really portray them as really close friends. Thats exactly why I decided to do it verbally in the very beginning itself.
I accept that it's tough to write on love and friendship, specially when you are Kaushik. I have mentioned it in the post as well. And I liked your post too. I read it when you posted.
And will keep in mind your suggestions from next time onwards.
Cheers!!
it was a nice read..
ReplyDeleteI dont comment much now on blogs..but i just couldnt resist pointing one thing..
u said somewhere that people get attached emotionally and something related to lust..though my friend..the truth is that its actually the lust that drives you into that emotion..(its not my theory)
love or friendship..i say...why to give a name ? whenever the right time comes..sab kuchh khud ho jaayega..
a very nice read..!
@ Ankur
ReplyDelete[Please consider it as a serious remark and not just a sarcastic comment which you might come across (at least I do) on daily basis at college.] Lately, I've come to the conclusion, that psychologically you are one of the most stable person I've ever met. Your advice and your perception is among the most valued ones for me. And I mean whatever I've just said.
Now this doesn't really mean I seem to agree with everything you said. As in my case, I'm more emotionally attached to my friends at Shivalik then any at Himadri or Kailash. (I can safely compare them, I guess. Moreover I haven't got many friends outside.) But that doesn't make me homosexual, right? I mean, I care more for them as I've shared, been with, laushed, cried, fought, pranked more with them then anyone else.
Now you would say, that the case is so, because I didn't lust for anyone at IIT, primarily due to their looks.
( No offence to you gals, seriously, you all are amongst the most beautiful ladies I've ever seen) But I somehow can't agree. What I believe is, I didn't lust for anyone simply because I didn't wish to be in relationship with anyone of them. Rather I should say "I didn't want a relationship at all."
And if you ask why am I not emotionally attached to any of them, then I would say, I simply haven't spent much time with them.
P.S.
Congrats for the dassi again.
Ab to seriously fande lene hain tujhse.
And yeah! Thanks for commenting.
@ ankur
ReplyDeletethough my friend..the truth is that its actually the lust that drives you into that emotion..
I DISAGREE...its not necessary in all the cases..rather not necessary in most of the cases..n its not bout a theory, its something that I've seen...
love or friendship..i say...why to give a name ? whenever the right time comes..sab kuchh khud ho jaayega.. hmmm...yeah!!
I second Kaushik...ur advice matters a lot to me too :-)..though i didnt get psychologically stable person thing :/
congos again from my side too :D
@ kaushik
And if you ask why am I not emotionally attached to any of them, then I would say, I simply haven't spent much time with them.
ABSOLUTELY TRUE !!
yaar,if u wanna explore this further, go ahead n talk to as many ppl as possible..listen to all of them, but at the end, n number of ppl might give u n number of opinions...u do what u feel is right :)
@ Sonia
ReplyDeleteThat is exactly what I have been doing for some time now. :)
i wud agree wid shaun part of ur blog...i mean.... u know it yaaaaaaaarrrrr.... it feels diff when u r around wid dat some1 special...... i kno it cuz i too hav felt it.... i dont feel it same wid any other gal.... nd u somehow kno dat *shez d 1 for me*
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