Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Keep talking...

Now here is a much awaited post. At least for some people, it indeed was much awaited.
For all those, who are at the moment unaware of the following discussion, let me brief the scenario a little bit.
Actually, I had gone out of the room, and in the meantime someone found it interesting to do something something (:D) with my facebook profile. So, what he changed my status to, " I'm Single and available. And desperately looking for some hot chick." Now for obvious reasons, I deleted it when I logged on the next time. What proceeded was a long discussion on my next status regarding relationships and all. I wouldn't say it was a GOD discussion, but yeah! I would have to agree, I enjoyed every bit of it, more because it all revolved around me.

So, let me introduce you to the cast:

Shashank Sharma aka Shanks : A cool person to hang out with. Chill to the extreme levels. Perfect definition of "a fun loving person". An extremely talented shayar, as Sonia often says.

Sonia Bhatia: One of the highly intellectual girls you might ever meet. Unique properties: Her Comments on your blog may be longer than your blog itself. Hates Katrina Kaif.

Esha Garg: A typical Delhi girl: Good Looking, less intellectual, fun to talk with. Unfortunately, 2 years senior to me, considers me as kid and in relationship with the person to follow for a very long time.


Naman Singh: Generally very reserved in God knows what. Generally seen around partying and very less active in discussions unlike the people described above. And a big fan of Johnny Depp.

So, the discussion started as follows.







I was never over-weight, just under-tall. The correct height for my weight at the moment is seven feet ten and a half inches.
April 16 at 8:21pm ·  · 
  • You, Sonia Bhatia, Naman Singh, Esha Garg and 3 others like this.
    • Shashank Sharma ‎:O kitna mota hogaya???
      April 16 at 8:45pm · 
    • Tarun Kaushik Pehle se to patla ho gaya, par abhi bhi under-tall to hoon hee.
      April 16 at 8:47pm · 
    • Shashank Sharma ohhh bhai bohot padh raha hai lagta hai. Thoda sports khel and mess me roti khaya kar.
      April 16 at 8:48pm · 
    • Tarun Kaushik Sports to khel leta hoon, par hostel ki roti khana bas ke nahin.
      April 16 at 8:52pm · 
    • April 16 at 9:14pm · 
    • Shashank Sharma same story everywhere:P
      April 16 at 9:14pm · 
    • Tarun Kaushik We call them, bullet proof chapatis.
      April 16 at 9:15pm · 
    • Rohit Gupta ‎2 hagga of urs ... m sure many mre to cme..
      April 16 at 9:17pm · 
    • Tarun Kaushik ‎@ Rohit : It appears the location of my fist and your head are not mutually exclusive! It is a probability miracle!
      April 16 at 9:19pm · 
    • Shashank Sharma ‎:P we call them frisbys
      April 16 at 9:23pm · 
    • Divyanshu Sahloth Now dats +ve thinking.
      April 17 at 1:02am · 
    • Tarun Kaushik Frisbees is definitely a nice choice of words.
      April 17 at 3:53am · 
    • Tarun Kaushik It may also be considered as height of optimism.
      April 17 at 3:54am · 
    • Esha Garg thats nice status for sure
      April 17 at 3:59am · 
    • Esha Garg btw how was ur account hacked
      April 17 at 3:59am · 
    • Tarun Kaushik It was't actually hacked. I keep myself logged-in in a browser. A friend of mine changed my status, just for fun.
      April 17 at 4:01am · 
    • Esha Garg lolzzzzzzzzz..... happens a lot........
      April 17 at 4:02am · 
    • Esha Garg what wz d status all about???????????????????
      April 17 at 4:05am · 
    • Tarun Kaushik Leave it.
      April 17 at 4:05am · 
    • Esha Garg arrrrrrrrreeeee tell naaaa
      April 17 at 4:05am · 
    • Tarun Kaushik It was about me being single and trying desperately for a commitment.
      April 17 at 4:06am · 
    • Esha Garg so wats wrong with it
      April 17 at 4:06am · 
    • Tarun Kaushik Hey, I'm not into that kind of psychologies. I don't wish to committed just for sake of being committed. I mean, I don't really care about such things. Alright, it's not that I wish to be completely isolated or so, but surely I don't consider myself to be mature enough to deal such situations. In fact I don't give these things much importance.I'm happy the way I am right now. Change is welcome. But, I wouldn't force it.
      April 17 at 4:30am · 
    • Esha Garg gud 2 c u quite certain bout all these.....some will say thats kinda on rational sidebut l thats kinda thinking only a few people possess..... i m not saying its gud or bad......... but yaaa... i can say........ if thats the way u think... u wud surely be more just while u decide anything serious...it wud surely b on a better this way.......gud on ur side................. soooooooooooooooooooooooooo all the best.......
      April 17 at 5:45am · 
    • long time since i been on fb.... velcom back! i told u wud join again...

      @ tarun - i alwayz knew u think dis way..wat r u doin man. girls must be crazy after u ... no, i m not buttering... i'm sayin so cuz i know a few(now u wud ask d names wont u? but i wont tell, so chill).. its u who u never initiated... it haz 2 b guyz who haveta initiate...but u neva did... so eventually dey too lose hope... & i believe no gal will ever say no 2 u... if u ask her out... & ya.... y cant u force a change??? change is welcome... bring dis change in u.... i m not saying... run after ne girl in town... but u wont disagree dat u hav a crush on somone... every1 does... go nd ask her... today itself... do it man... just do it

      @ Esha - how can u agree wid him, ven u urself r committed... i mean... dont u agree 2 wateva i said 2 kaushik here....

      nice status, by d way

      April 17 at 9:18am · 
    • ‎@Naman's comment

      i agree totally, whatever u said is absolutely true!!!

      @kaushik
      i had once told u bout the 'good lookin + brainless' thing..remember.. u know meri observation kabhi fail nahi ho sakti is maamle me, Naman is right :P .. i guess if i say something else it would be more or less a repetition of naman's comment...

      regarding the status....
      lol... even i am under tall.. had lost 5 kgs in 1st sem.. but uske baad se har sem me i lose 5 kgs during practicals n end up gaining 2-3 kgs during majors again :-(
      I was jus thinkin of the correct height for me.. 5'10" maybe

      April 17 at 10:26am · 
    • ‎@tarun: bro I support you, the other's feel you are boring and for the sake of entertainment they may try to force you into this love a.k.a deep shit :P
      but you yourself know what you are, it's never like the time will run out, neither you need to think about falling in love. It will automatically hit your thoughts when it has to.

      din guzar gaya aitbaar meiN
      raat kat gayi intezaar meiN
      vo maza kanha vasl-e-yaar meiN
      lutf jo mila iNtezaar meiN

      April 17 at 11:19am · 
    • Divyanshu Sahloth Wah wah wah!
      April 17 at 1:43pm · 
    • Rohit Gupta hey tarun atleast u could have written a single line saying truth ... mst say urs quote" i dnt indulge in dese kind of a things" makes me laughing...
      April 17 at 4:24pm · 
    • Well, I certainly did not expect such a large number of replies, that would rather be concerned about the ongoing discussion.

      @ Esha, Naman, Sonia and Shashank :

      I think exactly the way I stated. I believe that this relationship thingy is certainly over-hyped. I mean to say, yeah! who doesn't want someone to share his /her feelings and may be everything.( I personally am amateur in this regard, as you have noticed by now) But I don't think I have reached a stage or any situation, where 'i needed someone else's support. I may be sounding awkward, but that is true. I don't mean to say I haven't seen bad times, but I have so far been able to handle it all by myself. May be it would have been better had I got someone to share all those times, bad as well as good, but I can't really say anything as I have seen only one side of the coin. And just for sake of trying the other side, I wouldn't wish to have a change in way I do anything, be it of no importance at all, or the biggest decisions of my life. Had I been committed, my whole thinking would have been different. My decisions would have been different. May be I would have been different, but the question is why a different me? Am I already not happy enough. I can't really predict what would have been the case had I been on another path. But, why care about those.

      Naman, I am really very pleased to hear so. I, seriously, didn't know that. That surely feels awesome now. I never initiated because I never received any signs or anything which would have made me think about the aforementioned situations. Had I known about any, I am not really sure how I would have reacted. I even don't know how I would react even now. The thing is that I feel that I can't force my entry in anyone's life just because I need her to be my friend. Change is definitely welcomed. But I don't know whether she(I don't know who she actually might be) would welcome that change or not. Truly speaking, I haven't talked to all girls collectively in last one year, as I have gossiped, yeah gossiped with any one of my close friends, in a single day. Actually I need a reason to talk to anyone. May be that makes my image of a introvert, but I can take that note. And yes, who hasn't got crush on someone?

      April 17 at 4:28pm · 
    • ‎* continues

      Sonia, I very well remember the previous conversation with you. I agree with you till certain extent as well. I had told you that I never got any signs, and hence I never reacted. And yeah 5'10" is good enough

      Shashank, Your psychology is what I really appreciate man. The chillest kind of person I have lately seen around. Exactly, this is what I believe, you shouldn't think of falling in love. Jab hoga dekha jayega. Why to think about it that well in advance. I mean to say, why make castles in the air. (All those who have read my blog, should have found a serious contradiction by now) Nice shayari, by the way.

      Rohit, There is a difference in what I think actually and what I talk to you guys. Its always fun to let out your despogiri. Things are always over exaggerated when you are with friends. With no leg pulling and all, do you think we would have enjoyed our semester that much?

      April 17 at 4:38pm · 
    • u wer pleased.... really... good... u didnt get signs coz u didnt wish 2 do take them... how did i notice the signs then?? this is a expert advice frm me.... think frm point of ppl arnd u as well... i mean... it cant b man... grow up... the true thing is.... u urself kno wat ppl hav always felt bout u.... u ver considered 2 b so introvert nd someone who didnt care bout anyone save himself....ur taken fr granted attitude neva helped man.... ppl eventually thought u ver unapproachable... i felt sorry 4 u... as i hav been among dose few who knew u so well..... such a nice person thought 2 b totally opposite... its not that u wer rude or something... but ppl neva thought u wud entertain dem.... it hasnt affected u much.... but u r soon gonna realize dat i wz rite... too rite...... i dont knw why, but my conscience sayz dat u wanna open up.......... but cant coz of ghosts of past.... open up man..... i m not saying u get despo.... but yaaaaar, u can atleast show interest ven som girl talks 2 u or so..... par haaaan, i cn say 1 thing ...... ppl lik u r admired d most...... but grls vil never initiate in ur case...... neva... even if day hav tooooo strong feelings 4 u........ wich vil die out as time passes... and dey notice u showing no interest in dem..... well its all upto u 2 decide..... tune ye to maan liya ki teri crush hai... uske liye hee kar le.....

      abe shashank..... who says v think... kaushik is boring... infact hez d most interesting personality i hav ever seen or met........

      April 17 at 5:19pm · 
    • nd yaaaaaaaaa.... if someone lik u hz crush on som1...... u must definitely b serious bout her.... u wont ever express it, i m sure.... she might even not b able 2 notice it.... u hide ur emotions quite well....... but do it man.... may be she too likes u..... nd in sam state of mind as u hav alwaz been.... who says 2 be in relationship... but atleast...... befriend her......... i m sure... among d little female janta u hav as ur frnd on fb, u hardly talk 2 ne1..... hey gals... all u in his frnd list... probablity is high dat it mite be u(1/10 or so)... :D ye to kuchh karega nahi....... tum hee kar do.....

      April 17 at 5:27pm · 
    • Shashank Sharma I C. @naman do you mean our tarun is a little low when it comes to talking to a chick??? well that can be a serius problem ;)
      April 17 at 7:20pm · 
    • ‎@ kaushik

      first of all glad that someone else also types lengthy comments like me :P
      well buddy i really respect your opinion.. its right to a great extent.. Yes, of course you can neither think of falling in love nor can u avoid it... its something that just happens...

      but what we (Naman n I) are sayin holds true as well.. though I don even know girls from your friend list, I can have a bet many of them must be likin u, but none of them must be havin the guts to say so...

      I ve always noticed that you are a shy person,, since you are like shy even while talking to me, I know you must be a complete introvert while talkin to other girls...first of all, at least stop being shy, start talking, you don need a topic dumbo, start talking to someone who likes talking to you///

      the reason why you didnt notice any signs... I guess you never thought in that direction... or maybe you didnt want to or maybe you jus could not notice... (brainless + good lookin girls are always around :P)

      though we hardly talk, I know you quite a lot... even though you might be irritating at times (when you keep praising yourself n you are adamant bout your opinions) n even though you are quite kiddish,even though you are way too shy.. you are a guy who is good at heart, a sincere friend to his buddies...true to himself n would be true to the girl he likes... n above all you arent one of those hopeless despos...

      well ya.. need to reduce 5 more kgs... latest target hai :P

      n one more thing, I was a bit too harsh when I once said you don listen to others n don have flexibility in your opinions n all..I apologize for the same... itne time baad mafi maangte hue ajeeb lag raha hai but m really really sorry

      @ shashank

      yar tu to ultimate hai practical wale funde dene me ... no one can force anyone else..n nobody was commenting here for the sake of entertainment .... n tera sher.. yaar abhi tak uski relevance nahi samajh me ayi yahan pe :P

      start writing bout relationships "in your style" on your blog..thode bahut sher bhi jhaad diyo... would like to read ;)

      April 17 at 8:04pm · 
    • ‎@sonia: Hmm Thanks shayari aise hi for your entertainment :P And yeah nice idea for the blog :D

      @kaushik Kya bhai shy rahenga to kaise chalega...
      tera homework. Dekh sonia ki profile ladkiyon se bhari hui hai as she is in a girl's college. Make 5 female frnds from her profile :)

      April 17 at 10:06pm · 
    • abe ye kya suggestion hai.......... aaaaaarrrrrrrggggghhhhhhh
      bada aaya homework dene wala...

      why do guys notice just one thing bout my college that it happens to be an all girls engineering college....aur bhi kai khaas cheezein hain mere college aur campus ke bare me...
      we must have won many competitions at national n international level, no one bothers... we have had placements equivalent to dce... again no one knows... bas sari duniya ko pata hai k wo all girls college hai... aaaaaaaaaarrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhhh

      @kaushik
      dekh iski faltu bakwaas ko ignore maar,ye kuch bhi bolta rehta hai ... my classmates dont add unknown people... n start talkin to girls you know already, no point makin new female friends n still being shy the same way...

      April 17 at 10:49pm · 
    • Naman, I knew from the very beginning what people I interact less with might be feeling about me. Sometimes, I had to deal with these situations directly. I always preferred, not to react. I never took things that lightly, only my actions were a little blunt. If people used to think that I was or am introvert then I don't actually find a problem because I always have been this way. I never knew how to show what I actually am, and that is why I always preferred to live an inert life and let people have any apprehensions about me. It was not so that I didn't care. The deal was that I never was able to find a way out. And you are right, I wanna break free, it's just that I wanna remain Tarun Kaushik,and not become Shaun Kurkait, you know what I mean. For those who don't, Shaun Kurkait ain't just the anagram of my name. It was a simultaneous Tarun Kaushik that I have always imagined. The one who is extrovert, has got bulk of friends, has never lived an inert life, totally opposite to what I am right now. It's not that talking to a girl is a taboo for me, I have already told you, I can't really talk without a reason. I am short of thoughts, words, and prefer to say a hi and pass-by.

      And how can you say, I'm serious about any crushes and all? And guessing that she might be in my friend list on facebook, how did you conclude that? But, yeah! You guessed it right. Main shayad sahi main kuchh nahi karoonga.

      Sonia, there is a different scenario all together here. You know me to some extent, but I don't think I have interacted with the others so much that they might like me or say have feelings for me. I wouldn't bet, cause I am already running out of money, but I think that what I think is probably right.

      I would surely agree, I am bit on the shy side. But thats part of my nature. I feel its too tough to change that. I mean you need effort. It's not that I'm not ready to put in the same, but rather I wanna let time pass by and see what happens. What God has planned for me, I have been nice to most of the people I have had encounter with, so I can ask him so in return to give me a hilarious future. I don't even complaint for anything in past, cause I've always been pleased enough with the turn of evens in my life.

      No need to say sorry, by the way. It's alright we were just putting in our vies which contradicted. When it comes to politics, religion or Sachin, yes I am adamant. And I don't find a problem.

      Shashank, Yeah! Naman is right, I am shy when it comes to talking to girls. I admit that. But the homework you suggrdtrd is surely beyond my capability.

      Sonia, Do you really think I was gonna take his advice seriously? No way!

      April 17 at 11:33pm · 
    • i opened profile of every girl in his account.... gals, plz dont mind,.... even if u mind... kaushik will havta deal it not me... so m not quite bothered... & as expected by every1 of us, there haven't been ne wall to wall interactions b/w kaushik nd them...except esha, who treats him like a kid d sam way i do... actually there havnt been ne.. my previous choice of words was due to some locked profiles....

      i can say so that u must b serious about ur crush coz i know u better den u think... u think u can hide... no regrets, but u rn't a good actor at all.... it all showz... and i even m more sure that u must hav atleast added her 2 ur profile friends.... coz u r serious..... accept that... buddy

      SACK KA SAAMNA

      1. do u have a crush?
      2. is she ur facebook friend?
      3. hav u ever tried 2 talk 2 her?
      4. hav u evr tried 2 chat wid her?
      5. does she belong 2 ur college or is she ur skool frnd?

      ur traing 2 open up begins... answer these honestly.... i know all answers except 5... but still wanna hear 4m u....

      @ shashank yaaa.. hez way 2 low.... & dat iz a serious problem........

      April 17 at 11:49pm · 
    • Tarun Kaushik I am not gonna answer this crap anyway! If you know the answer, then post it yourself!
      April 18 at 5:22am · 
    • You know Kaushik, I was actually fed up of these Shaun Kurkait status on gtalk n orkut.... n the way u used to have those idiotic statements as a part of your status admiring yourself.... YOu know what, I hate that Shaun Kurkait image of yours n I like Tarun Kaushik quite a lot coz he is my friend n I know him....Just be what you are... YOu always had those silly things written here n there in your profile " different ppl have different opinions about me n no one knows who I actually am.." I always took it as utter bullshit, if you think you are mysterious, lemme tell you , you are not at all mysterious, its not difficult to know what kinda person you are... Different ppl have different opinions bout everyone.. no big deal...N as far as being popular is concerned, well there are some people among your friends who always admire anything you say, anything you do almost everytime,God knows why,they never contradict you... Its something they shouldnt do..Being popular does not mean being liked by everyone n having loads of fans... having loads of real friends who like you the way you are is being popular...There might be people who dont understand you, trust me, its okay, I am like a complete extrovert, I can be friendly even with strangers ...still people dont know me... Some people admire me so much that I myself cant believe it, some people think i am a boring person just coz our views don match.. (those brainless girls in particular :P) ... It really does not matter, you have many great friends who know you well, who love you the way you are.. this is what counts...

      To hell with the relationships thing now,,,life will offer what it has in store for you.. but seriously yar, you need to do something about this.. You cannot be shy while talking to girls, no big deal if you can talk to me without being that shy, anyone n everyone can...more than a gf, you need frnds among girls.. Being single is not at all bad, I am single n I have absolutely no problems about it... All we were trying to say is that, even though obviously there might be girls who like you, they wont ever have courage to say so... n if you happen to like someone, you wont even think of admitting that, coz you are way too shy even while talking to them... n thats why, future me panga padh sakta hai, abhi you are not even 20, enjoy being single :P

      I can understand, koi ek dum se apne nature ko change nahi kar sakta...you have been an introvert for quite a long time, so its not easy.. as it is most of the girls are not good talkers,they are not interested in stuff like cricket n other intelligent stuff you might like to talk about.. so, I can really understand its not easy... but just dont take it as we want you to change as a person,you just be the same.. you jus need to improve upon a few habits, not for others but for yourself..Coz I feel you wanna be an extrovert...
      Start expressing yourself.. YOu should not hide yourself yar... I don understand logon ko kya mazaa aata hai khud ko mysterious kehne me...there's no harm talking bout what you feel, what you like n dislike, what you think bout the other person... Communication is important, very important...

      Stop thinking about others n what all others say, guys wont ever stop pulling legs... Being happy the way you are matters the most...

      things have been really great in the past, n things will be great even in future,, all the best..

      ya I almost knew you wont follow shashank's silly advice..jus had to confirm :D

      April 18 at 10:18am · 
    • ‎@ tarun

      do whatever u think is right........ because ultimately its..... what u feel matters d most........ and i m sure.... u wud do fine..... i mean...... psychologically u r stong enough to deal these situations..........

      @ naman

      u havto treat him like a kid....... he iz so sweet nd innocent....

      April 18 at 10:52am · 
    • ‎@ tarun... OK dont answer it... i'll do it 4 u...according to me... answers are........
      1. yes, i hv gt a crush on a cute girl
      2. yes, y wudnt i add her
      3. nt actually, felt lik so, never did it though... except when i wz introduced to her... and simple hellos..
      4. yes, only a few times.... i did it...
      5. college.... she has 2 be frm ur college....

      u said "I am short of thoughts, words, and prefer to say a hi and pass-by."

      just reverse ur directio nd u will find urself walkin beside her...

      i think its all up2 u 2 decide, wat u wanna do... so just chill... but i wz surprised 2 see none of ur college mates, wz part of dis discussion.......

      April 19 at 11:27am · 
    • Thank you all, for such wonderful comments. Had one of the best online discussions ever. What I think is I will leave everything on time. Liked the way each one you cared about me. Will put it on my blog as a memory. I hope it's fine with you all. I'll continue to live my life the way it has been so far. I wouldn't force a change and neither would I make efforts if one happens.

      Sonia, those were the lines written by me, 4-5 years ago. That time it seemed awesome. I am lazy enough to continue with the same even now.

      Esha, I hope so. And thanks for calling me sweet, which I actually may not be. :D

      Naman, I wouldn't reverse my direction for someone without any reason. But surely you came up with an excellent statement. It just depends on the direction we chose.

      April 19 at 8:58pm · 
    • Ya m waitin to read that blog... hopefully a detailed version with ur reactions to our comments :-)

      u know Kaushik, I had misunderstood u as a person at times..n m sorry for the same..

      Yes, its great to leave things on time.... the best thing that you can do right now :-)

      April 20 at 1:31am · 




Well, I was expected to give a commentary. But I preferred to defer it. Reason: Too much of a discussion has already been done.

I hope you liked it.

Next post, probably on some serious note. Last to last time, I thought I would write on spirituality and I ended up commenting on love and friendship. This time, I'll save myself from declaring any advancements.

Till then,
Keep Reading, keep Commenting.
K@ushik



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